"It is said that in Chinese the ideogram representing 'opportunity' is encompassed in the ideogram for 'crisis.'  Nowhere is the linking of these two concepts more apt than in our role as parents. . . negative experiences can serve as superb opportunities to empathize, to build intimacy with our children, and to teach them ways to handle their feelings.  

For many parents, recognizing children's negative emotions as opportunities for such bonding and teaching comes as a relief, a liberation, a great 'ah-ha.'  We can look at our children's anger as something other than a challenge to our authority. "

Expert from "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by John Gottman